I may have to get dentures...husband freaked out?

I'm 36 years old, and due to bad genes...it's quite possible that I will have to get dentures. I've already had several teeth pulled, including most of my molars and two teeth toward the top front. My husband insists that I only need bridges for the front teeth that I'm missing. But the rest of my teeth are so bad that I really think it'd be a waste of money to even mess with the bridges.





Anyway, when I mentioned the dentures to my husband, he freaked out and said that he "couldn't be married to someone with false teeth." He says that he's not shallow, but there's just something about dentures that he can't handle.





I'm at a loss. I thought that marriage was for better or worse, and don't a lot of people lose their teeth while growing old together? I know I'm young to lose all of my teeth...but as far as I'm concerned, it's better than looking like a snaggle tooth (the way I do now).





Should I be upset? Should he? How do I handle this??

I may have to get dentures...husband freaked out?
I'm 34 and due to bad genes last month I had to get an upper denture. My husband didn't freak out he just wanted me to have some self confidence something my bad teeth had caused a lack of. You can't tell thery're fake they look great. My husband hasn't seen me without them and I plan to keep it that way. I received my denture the same day my teeth were pulled. My mouth was pretty sore at first I even lost 7lbs so far. Keep your head , up your husband should want what makes you happy . It's not like you want him to take you out dancing without your teeth. Good Luck!!!!!!
Reply:If you can afford to save the back teeth you should. Once themolars are removed bone resorption sets in. Over a long span of time You willloose you jaw structure.





A bridge is always the option of choice over complete dentures.





Dr. C
Reply:This really upsets me, if he wasnt shallow it wouldnt bother him. I dont want to sound mean but what the hell does it matter if you loose all your teeth as long as he has you so it shouldnt matter if you get dentures. You cant help it that you have to get dentures and if he doesnt understand that then hes just an *** to me. And if he doesnt want you after you get them find someone else that will.
Reply:Tell your husband to GROW UP!





My mom had all her teeth pulled at 42 because of genetic gum disease, has beautiful dentures and you can't even tell the difference at all.
Reply:what a ******* ajck ***. to him you should be beautiful no matter what. %26amp; it is for better or worse. trust me there are a lot worse things than ******* dentures. and its a lot better for you and im sure more comforting then having to get teeth pulled and all that other bullshit. if hes being serious, and cant stay married to you over that i dont know why you married him in the first place. you deserve someone amazing who will stick with you through everything!
Reply:He says he's not shallow, well, he IS being shallow...You guys need to sit down and talk, and maybe go to a councilor....that's no reason to leave a person!
Reply:i was around 30 when i had my dentures best thing i ever did, he should be supportive if he wont acccept you then leave him
Reply:I think you should remind him that one day he too will loose his teeth, and I am sure you will stay with him. Everyone eventually looses their teeth its what happens in life. My husband doesn't have wonderful teeth and trust me girl half the time his breath is horrible but I love the off and he should love you too. I think once you get the dentures he will be pleasantly surprised of how great you woll look and oh the enloyment he could have when you took them out, (if you know what I mean)


Good luck!!!!
Reply:first of all, i'd love to know how your husband would know you "only need bridges"... is he a dentist?





hon, really, you can't help it if you need dentures, and the truth is, your bad genes are NOT your fault! Gum issues and disease caused from bad teeth can affect other things in your body, including your heart and circulatory system.





YES your husband IS shallow...





You aren't too young to lose your teeth -- many people get dentures at a young age... it has nothing to do with your character or the type of person you are, and im' sure you're a great person with many wonderful qualities.





I'll also bet you will look lovely with your new teeth.





Your husband needs to learn about acceptance... it seems you've matured, and he's still a kid....
Reply:Yes you should be upset. He is shallow and an insensitive jerk. He should love you no matter what and dentures are not that big of a deal. Tell him to grow up.
Reply:Of course you should be upset, you are more than your teeth. My mother had to get dentures at a very young age and you'd never know. She only takes them out to clean them, she even sleeps with them. You should probably do everything you can to save the remaining teeth. My mom wishes she could bite into an apple. Talk to your dentist and just do what's best for your health. If he can't handle it I'm sure there might be bigger things that he can't handle either. If he can't handle something as minor as this, well, that's his problem. Good luck :)
Reply:How the hell can a man who put up with a woman with a mouth full of rotten teeth try to be so picky????
Reply:How I can put this..Have you talk to him about not wearing your dentures and how beneficial it could for him be when you two get the freak on?. I bet you he'll like that.. ;)


They won't be any teeth scratching or getting on the way. Hopefully he'll start looking at you in a different way. grinnn :-))


On a serious note. He has issues..this your health you are talking about. For better or for worst?.gezzz what's up with that?


Good luck.
Reply:Yikes, my brother is facing a similar situation in the future and he will be right around your age! (I thought this might make you feel a little less alone). I don't think dentures have a whole lot of sex appeal, but if you don't have any other choice, I don't see what else you could do. My brother is considering getting dental implants in Mexico when the time comes for him, but I'm not sure that is a great idea....





(For those who are suggesting she pays for dental implants up here, they are not covered by insurance companies and cost a fortune. Also, not all people are candidates for this.) However, if you are very well off you may want to check into this, if you haven't already. Also, maybe give your husband a little bit of time to adjust to this...he was incredibly insensitive, but hopefully he'll come around.





I hope you aren't offended by this, but because of my brother's situation, I'd be very interested to hear how this turns out for you.
Reply:I'm 33 and have a upper denture plate best thing i ever did and it wasn't that my teeth were bad i broke a front tooth and it would have cost me more to fix it then to have them all pulled. If you can afford it try veneers or the ones they screw in. I met my husband right before i broke my tooth he stayed though the teeth pulling and doesn't mind the dentures at all remind him of the pleasure he can get from you being able to take the teeth out lol....Honestly though he is being shallow he should want whats best for you and make you feel compy with it
Reply:Tell your husband that I told that he was a "jerk"...I'll laugh out loud by the time he looses all his teeth...





Don't worry I'll curse him for you...just to give him a little lesson...hahaha
Reply:you have every right to be upset. It was a very mean thing to say. ANd i know what your going through on the bad teeth part. only i am 16 yrs younger and facing a similar situation. only my problem is the enamel on my teeth is very weak.





I have pulled up a couple sites you might be interested in.


http://www.yourdentistryguide.com/implan...


http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/dental-...





i have found myself looking into everything like this.Hope it helps and good luck
Reply:Your husband is shallow, selfish, insensitive and, quite frankly, an asshole.





Have you considered dental implants in place of the missing teeth? They're permanent, natural looking, and are NOT dentures.





If the jackass you're married to will fund the treatment, then it might be a viable alternative.
Reply:Tell him it could be him one day and he should not judge you
Reply:Why don't you knock all his teeth out then tell him you can't be with a dude who has dentures and see what he says then? Freaking looser of a husband you got.
Reply:Take him with you to the dentist so he can discuss it with him. Maybe if he knows everything that it would entail and that the teeth would look natural he would be fine with it. I hope so. You may also want to gently remind him of the "for better or worse, till death do us part" aspect of your vows. Sure, this is kinda "for worse" but it sure as heck isn't "death parting us"! Maybe he needs a bit of perspective. Just be nice about it.
Reply:I've met people who were in their early 20's who have dentures; some people have great teeth-others not. I think it is best to keep your teeth and go for bridges if you are able, but if not - so what. And I've heard from men that women who remove their dentures while 'having fun' with the men; you know performing oral - are awesome; they said it was the best they ever had. Tell him to look on the bright side - You'll look better and he'll 'feel' better.
Reply:well I recieved the same response from my husband,I am in the process of getting CROWNS--he said no wife of his will have dentures!!!!!!if you have a school of dentistry in you area see if they are accepting patients--there are many other avenues to help you as well if you can not afford it..And do not feel ashamed!!Before you know it you will be smiling from ear to ear
Reply:Just curious as to why implants have not been discussed as an option???
Reply:Save all the remaining teeth you can to stave off bone resorption.





Save up a lot of money and ask about implants. I don't know what "genes" you are talking about (osteogenesis imperfecta, dentinogenesis imperfecta, other?) but if implants are an option for you then definitely save up some cash for that OR have yourself a fundraiser if you truly are losing your teeth due to a genetic disorder.





Hope that helps.





You might have to get a partial in the meantime and your husband will just have to deal with it. :)